On men and women and a lot of misunderstanding -2

How many times i heard "my partner does not understands me" as if there were things to be understood! Or as if the person complaining has really understood him/her self or at least tried to understand their partner

That is one of the main reasons for the breakdown any relationship and it so fake!Understanding?!
dDd our parents understand us? Do we understand our kids? Do we ever try to put ourselves in other pepole's shoes?
Of course there are a lot of misunderstandings between all of us. Why is that? The simple answer is that we like to blame others when they hurt us; as if it is not us who gives them reasons and the means to make it easy for them to hurt us.
It begins from the first step in any relationship: each is hoping for something from this relationship and hiding it, waiting for the other to disclose his/ her "papers" and from that moment on the relationship changes into a game and each wants to win whilst sustaining the least damages.
That is one of the main misunderstandings: we are so vunerable and pretend to be tough and experienced
raouf